If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. – Jim Rohn
- First, celebrate this big accomplishment! You’ve worked hard to get here and I’m a firm believer that every accomplishment, small or large, should be acknowledged and celebrated. It’s empowering to look back and see just how far you’ve come.
- Next, set aside some undistracted time to reflect. I suggest putting 1-2 hours per week or more in your calendar, devoted to creating your plan. Remember: this is an inside out job. Self-exploration is key. This is your life. It is up to YOU to figure out what you want, why you want it, where you want to land, what you want to contribute and how to make this happen. Making this commitment is a solid act of self-care.
- After you’ve made a commitment to yourself and set aside some time, grab a pad and a pen/pencil and start stream-of-consciousness writing. This is a form of writing that allows you to release whatever is swirling around in your head and heart about how you’re feeling about where you are at this time.Although graduating from college is a major accomplishment and a huge rush, after all of the excitement dies down, there you are alone with yourself, and it’s time to figure out what your plan is for the next chapter in your life.Challenge yourself to write for 10 minutes. Write whatever comes up, no filters, no judgement, no criticism, no reading it, just write. Don’t let that pen/pencil leave that paper until the time is up. If you don’t know what to write, write, “I don’t know what to write.” Again, whatever comes up, jot it down on paper.Try this form of writing for 3-5 days, better yet, try it for a week to really get a feel for it. Consider this a psychological dump. It’s a great way to get that cyclone of thoughts and emotions out of your head and onto paper. Don’t read it right away, give it about 24 hours. Many who really commit to this process find it to be a very effective way to explore their thoughts and feelings, and uncover some things they may not have been aware of.
- After you engage in this process for a week or so. Ask for some help to sift and sort through what you discovered. Schedule a College Transition Consultation with me. Or, connect with a trusted mentor or friend who doesn’t have an emotional or monetary investment in your choices. It’s really helpful to have a sounding board, someone who will take a neutral stand, who can help you talk this through.
- A next solid step, if you’re not sure what you want to do, is to create a list of things you love to do and are good at. Just brainstorm without any filters. And, write it all down. Writing is very powerful. After you get a good, solid list, prioritize by what gets you the most excited right now to the least excited right now.
- Then, go to Amazon.com and take a peek at the resources I recommend below. Read the description, then read the reviews – good and not so good. If the book seems like a good fit for you, pick up a copy and commit to reading it through – use it as your guide.All of these resources can help you launch your self-discovery process around what you want to do, what you want to contribute.Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation by Parker J. PalmerHow to Find the Work You Love by Laurence G. BoldtZen and the Art of Making A Living: A Practical Guide to Creative Career Design by Laurence G. BoldtThe Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion by Elle LunaI Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was: How to Discover What You Really Want and How to Get It by Barbara SherRefuse to Choose!: Use All of Your interests, Passions, and Hobbies to Create the Life and Career of Your Dreams by Barbara SherThere are so many books on this subject; please peruse the Amazon.com site for more selections that may speak to you.If you don’t work with me or another mentor or coach, please get one of these resources and commit to going through it and completing the exercises.This is YOUR life we’re talking about and the more energy, effort, time and attention you invest into making conscious choices around who you want to be and what you want to contribute, the more excited and fulfilled you will be.This is ultimately about doing something meaningful, making an impact. We all want to know we’re making a contribution, right? It’s part of what makes us human.All the best as you move on to your next chapter, dear student! And, again, congrats!!!
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